Hope: “Self-Evolution within Lifetime”

We human beings can evolve ourselves into better selves within our lifetime. According to research, we conscious beings can evolve, drive our “personality, cognitive capacities, emotions and actions” based on our needs, intents, and “power of vision.” So, we don’t necessarily have to be dictated by our genetics and environments alone. We can be self-motivated movers too. This means “self evolution”, “nurturing” by self and others enable a person to be who he desires to be and inherit the trait to his offsprings. Please check out the site: “How to Evolve in Your Lifetime,” (Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/douglas-labier/how-to-evolve-in-your-lifetime_b_840363.html)

“The capacity for self-evolution of your personality, mental capacities, relationships and actions in the world — is based on “conscious intent.” That is, shaping your being is an art form, the way an artist develops, evolves and creates a painting or a composer creates music.”

“Consciousness is destiny. Instead of being dictated to by your genes and chemical processes in the brain… you are the author of your own life – capable of change, healing, creativity and personal transformation.”

“Human can evolve by acting more like the person he/she wants to be.””What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”

 ’m exhausted. following steps like a zombie.

Personality Type: Case of John Boehner

This is not about party line. This is about human psychology. I sometimes tend to be kind of keen on people’s personality. Maybe I should have studied psychology. Time listed politically skillful character of House Speaker John Boehner which seems to be very unsual but possibly very useful personality skill.

1. Brinksmanship. Boehner plays the line. As Kennedy learned, it’s not worth showing Boehner your hand until the last round because everything leading up to the deadline is just rhetoric. Congress always works better on a desperate deadline and Boehner plays this right to the edge, as he did last week, consenting to a deal with Democrats only 90 minutes before funding for the federal government was set to run out.
2. Nothing’s settled until everything’s settled….Those eager beavers, who prematurely rushed out of the room to announce a deal before one was finalized, learned not to cite final numbers until all the I’s were dotted and T’s crossed…
3. Patience. Boehner started with a two-week by two-week strategy on the 2011 budget and, even at the end, he was prepared to drag the process out for another week…….He’s not about quick solutions…. He knows from experience that good things come to those who wait…..
4. Pragmatism. The long lead-time on the 2011 omnibus spending bill….helped Boehner school his freshmen in political pragmatism. The Speaker leveraged abortion and other wedge issues he never truly hoped to win in order to get more cuts. He’s not above using the cloak of ideology to get what he wants, which, in this case, was the largest amount of cuts possible.
5. He doesn’t deal in half-measures when it comes to protecting the party line. In 2006, when GOP Rep. Jeff Flake of Arizona was crusading against earmarks, then-Leader Boehner pressured him to stop embarrassing fellow Republicans and booted him off the Judiciary Committee…..In 2010, when the official position on pork had changed, Boehner sent a letter to Republicans warning that they would lose committee assignments if they requested earmarks.

Sources:

http://swampland.blogs.time.com/2011/04/11/5-things-obama%E2%80%99s-learned-about-boehner/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+timeblogs%2Fswampland+%28TIME%3A+Swampland%29&utm_content=Yahoo!+Mail

http://news.yahoo.com/s/time/20110412/us_time/httpswamplandblogstimecom201104115thingsobamae28099slearnedaboutboehnerxidrssfullnationyahoo

earth’s evolution. 

Science: We Don’t Know Who We Are.

I am surprised to learn that all decisions I believed I made out of consciousness were actually made out of unconsciousness. Really? It’s quite disappointing.

There is an interesting research result, saying that we don’t understand ourself at all. And our actions are often more of our unconscious choices. Below are the excerpts of the main concepts:

“Scientists who study how the brain shapes identity and behavior say that we are actually quite unaware of who we really are. Much of what drives our actions and shapes our personality is unconscious.”

“when it comes to our actions, consciousness really just skims the surface. Most of what drives what we do is embedded in neural networks not readily accessible by conscious thought,”

““The intuitive everyday idea about the sense of self and its control over behavior is as incorrect as the idea that the earth is flat,” Morsella agreed. Although we think of ourselves as independent agents, we’re not. Everything we do is influenced by unconscious processes and our environment”

“Other times, we’re not even aware of the urges. Research has shown, for instance, that compared to what would be expected by chance alone, more men named “Ken” move to live in Kentucky and more “Florences” move to live in Florida; more men named “Dennis” become dentists and more “Lauras” become lawyers. (All right. Then my name means “beautiful city” in the meaning of Chinese character. What am I going to be?) According to John Bargh, a psychologist at Yale University, these surprising findings are most likely the result of our evolutionary-driven attraction to things similar to us—an urge stemming from the idea that we should mate with people who resemble us because they are more likely to share our genes and help to propel them into the next generation.”

““We need to understand how information processed by many systems, both conscious and unconscious, simultaneously determines how we think, act and feel, and more generally, how we are who we are..”

“Greatest Mysteries: Who Are You?”, http://www.livescience.com/strangenews/070807_gm_identity_consciousness.html

A thousand times

“The Kite Runner,” written by Californian physician Khaled Hosseini, is the most-sold novel in human literature history. That’s why I read it. This is a story of half-brothers who grew up together in Afghanistan, a legitimate child as a master’s son and an illegitimate child as a servant boy who took care of master’s son. Although the master’s son had everything but always felt that his father cared more for the servant boy. Because of the jealousy, he skimmed to drive the servant boy (half-brother) out of their house. Eventually, the master’s son and his father immigrate to the US while his half-brother remained in Afgahnistan to be killed by rebels.

In the book, the royal servant boy/half-brother runs to get a kite of the defeated final contestant of Kite tournament that was flown away after his half-brother’s kite cut it off lose and won the tournament.

When this servant boy ran for Kite, he told his master’s son/half-brother, “a thousand times for you…” A thousand times for you, Those words, even after finishing the book, remain in memory. a thousand times for you. since then, or even before, sting’s song “a thousand years” gave me some kind of emotional attachment to the word, “thousand.” even in Pride & Prejudice, when mr. bingly proposed to jane, who had suffered from agony, she answers to him, “a thousand times”……..a thousand times…a thousand years…..a thousand times….a thousand years….., it seems that the word “thousand” has been used endlessly all around literature or music to symbolize …. good writers seem to bring out unexpected emotions or emotional attachment from readers to their work. I guess, it’s kind of, I think, artists and female species seem to have a lot common, including sentimentalism……

A Busy Kid Reader under City Night Light.

My girls are crazy about suveniors. Whereever we go, the first thing they want to check out is gift store. For a while, the older one wanted to get CUPS baseball cap as a suvenior of traveling here (it doesn’t mean that she knows CUPS team or baseball that much; for some reason, she falsely believes that she watched CUPS game (it was actually a minor league team’s game) and became a fan).  The always competing, enchanted actress younger one decided to be a SOX fan in opposition to her sister’s team. In this picture, the older one is reading a novel, which she pulled out of my bookshelf out of boredom. It’s a easy reading, grown-up paperback novel. It took her one and half hours to finish the whole book (It’s unfair; how long do I take to finish a book if I actually finish it? without being interrupted, side tracked or sometimes even completely forgetting about the fact that I was reading a book?; I collect books, somebody else read more of them). In this picture, she is reading the same book third times in a day, simply because of boredom and nothing else to do.

Time

Time is life. It’s not wise to waste time on false assumption or wish if they don’t agree with facts, reality. Instinct, gut feeling have ways of telling us about short-cut truth. But sometimes they may not be as accurate as facts because it may be biased toward what we wish for. It’s best to check facts along with what our instinct, gut feeling tell us in guiding our life in order to use time wisely with less waste.

Inner Child, Changing Exterior

Looking younger can be a good thing or bad thing. It depends. We know that people don’t change in most cases. We keep our inner child for lifetime while our exterior matures over time into grown-ups as we pick up bits of good or bad experiences/memories here and there, bits of knowledge, skills, details, complexity, sophistication, blunders, disappointments, and highs and lows in our brain and heart that add up into more depth, lines, and subtleties on our faces. But the core of our “Self” doesn’t change from the way we knew it as a child.

One non-positive thing of looking younger is its side effect of causing false assumption, expectation from a viewer, which makes the other person involuntarily commit unintended lying about himself/herself to the viewer. If the viewer is a momentary spectator in street, no harm done. But if he/she is within the boundary of life, then there would be eventually some degree of disappointment (or pleasure? it depends) or awkwardness if the later realization of earlier misperception changes the  terms of relationship/association. This is one negative side effect of illusive look, first impression.

Green Life: Let’s Burn Our “Renewable” Body Oil instead of Fossile Oil to Reduce American Addiction to Petrolium.”

Green life style can:

(A) Reduce American addiction to car driving, petrolium, carbon dioxide emissions;

(B) Reduce health care costs due to high rates of weight-related obessity, heartattacks, strokes, diabeties, or weight-related singlehoods; and

(C) Improve sanity, mental health of people, corporate executives, and politicians.

It’s Not Clintons? It’s Gores that Splits? Are Obamas Our Last Hope for Enduring Marriage?

How on earth it happened to Gores? Not to Clintons?

While I have been mesmerized with Mrs. Clinton’s almost impossible, miraculous endurance and patience toward her husband Mr. Clinton’s wonder lusts, which has been a distinguishable contrast to the modern day decision of the first lady of South Carolina, Mrs. Jenny Sanford, of not tolerating her philandering governor/husband, it is shocking and sad to hear the ending saga of a modern day love story, an ideal couple, Gores’ split.

In his book, “An Inconvenient Truth,” Mr. Gore wrote:

“Tipper and I have always shared the same impulse to get outside, to get away, to spend unscheduled time in untamed places…..spending 13 days and nights rafting and hiking by day and sleeping on the riverbank at night. It was exhilarating to spend that kind of uncluttered time together….There is a special peace, for me at least, in the simplicity of times like these. I was fortunate to marry a woman who, among her many enduring qualities, appreciates nature as much as I do…..Losing something is one thing; forgetting what you’ve lost is something else….”

The Couple Who “Shared the Whole World Together.” What happened to them? What made them to forget this sense of “Together-Wholeness” that they shared before? After hearing Mr. Gore’s purchase of his 4th extravaganza house (how much was it? Ten million dollar or so? Writing books and etc. requires that many residencies?; no wonder why my writing goes nowhere.) and increasing his human footprint to 20 times of that average American (which made me feel slightly confused of his conscience), here came another bomb.

Dear Obamas, you are our last hope of long-lasting, meaningful, happy marriage !

“The two of them have been living incredibly separate lives — their separate schedules took them in different directions,” she added. “They said they had just grown apart. Tipper loved life and wanted to have fun, and Al remained a very driven man with a lot of projects and irons in the fire.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/06/02/al-gore-tipper-gore-split_n_597593.html

http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1993338,00.html